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Does your spouse (or significant other) carry regularly.

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My wife is very experienced in the use of firearms. Forty years earlier she took a semester of police firearms training when she worked as a deputy game warden. In the past six years, she has trained extensively in the use of semi-auto pistols and carbines, and has informally used my shotguns. She is very comfortable around firearms, is definitely pro-2A, owns several pistols yet she often fails to carry. Yesterday she went to Walmart, probably the most dangerous place in our relatively small town, and did not carry. Sometimes she carries at church, sometimes she doesn't (she goes to church, I don't). I don't like to bug her about this, but it is a source of frustration and great concern on my part.

My question is, does your spouse (or significant other) carry regularly?
 

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Yes, my wife carries. Every day and everywhere it is legal to do so. She has a Ruger LCR in .357 Magnum to boot.

She is a rescue from Illinois and now a resident of West Virginia, married to me, of course.
 

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My wife doesn't carry at all. I'm the one who introduced her to shooting for the first time, and she has become competent in pistol shooting. She has absolutely no interest in carrying.
Carrying isn't for most, so I've never felt the need to encourage her.
 

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My wife has been through NRA courses Basic Pistol and Personal Protection in the Home, and has her CC permit, but she never carries. I have gotten her to carry Mace and and have a little better SA, but she's a walking target. There's only so much you can do.
 

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My wife has been through NRA courses Basic Pistol and Personal Protection in the Home, and has her CC permit, but she never carries.
I think carrying seems to be a bigger psychological leap for women than it is for men. It's also seems a lot more inconvenient for some women to carry on body than men which reduces them to off body carry, with all of its inherent issues.
 
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Carry? No, Id be happy if she would at least be willing to go to the shooting range and learn to shoot.
 
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In short, no

My wife has very limited firearms training (NRA basic pistol) and does not have a permit. We have often discussed more training for her, but I am hesitant to take her to the range as I AM NOT A GOOD INSTRUCTOR. When I ask her about taking a class, she says we don't have money and she doesn't have time for that. She grew up in C(r)ook county Illinois and had a very anti gun view prior to me, she at least now sees the light as far as responsible gun ownership goes.
Baby steps I guess.
 

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Wife (ex-leo) and I are at a CCW class today.
We should have our permits next week.
Being ex-leo I expect her to carry all the time.

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I've taught her basic firearm safety and she's been to the range to get familiar with a S&W 640 loaded with .38 +P.

The Mrs is legally blind, so she's never going to get a carry permit, but at least she can hit COM from across the room, which makes me feel better about her being alone at home.

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I think carrying seems to be a bigger psychological leap for women than it is for men. It's also seems a lot more inconvenient for some women to carry on body than men which reduces them to off body carry, with all of its inherent issues.
I agree. My wife spent a long career in high-fashion retailing and for a lot of women, even ones where it doesn't make that much difference, changing the slightest thing about clothing profiles and/or accessories is a big deal. That makes no sense to guys and a lot of enlightened women have gotten over it, but the effect is not to be underestimated.

Also, while I think safe off-body carry is theoretically possible, anything my wife puts into her purse goes into "a great abyss." She can't find her keys or her phone in her purse half the time. Finding a gun when she needed it would be problematic. The purse would make a devastating impact weapon, though!

Add to that what I call the "perceived klutz factor." A lot of women have been brought up to think that they can't handle tools, especially guns, and apparently, tire pressure gauges. It's not true! My wife can be incredibly precise with kitchen tools, including her knives, which I keep very sharp. But my wife assumes that if there are bullets in a gun, it can go off by itself.

I have a DAO gun I sometimes carry with 9# trigger She has fired it on the range and she can barely manage the trigger. One day she asked, "Could that thing just go off by itself?" I was thinking, "What? You could hardly get it to go off when you were trying to get it to go off!" But I just said "No, it's very safe." Discretion is the better part of valor. Happy wife, happy life!
 

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I've taught her basic firearm safety and she's been to the range to get familiar with a S&W 640 loaded with .38 +P.

The Mrs is legally blind, so she's never going to get a carry permit, but at least she can hit COM from across the room, which makes me feel better about her being alone at home.

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I don't know about your wife's condition, so I am not commenting on that specifically. But as someone who has vision issues myself, but is still a very competent shot, I always like for people to know that "legally blind" is not "totally blind."

I read that if you have 20/20 vision or vision corrected to 20/20, if you get a pair of drug store reading glasses at 3.00 power and look through them, that simulates the distance vision of the threshold of "legally blind." If you try this, you will see that at the 2-3 yard range where most DGUs occur, you can see a man-sized target, you can tell if that target has an object in his hand and if that target is coming at you. You can also see the front sight quite well, especially if it is hi-viz, although at that range, point shooting works well.

Therefore, at the legally blind threshold, you can defend yourself with a gun. You could also get through the NRA Basic Pistol Course, which qualifies you for a CC permit in my state. Now if you are way past the threshold, that's a different story. But I cringe when I hear the liberal media "out" some gun owner because they are "legally blind."
 

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My Wife carries a Taurus 85 when she travels regularly for work.. not much more than that.
 

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... Now if you are way past the threshold, that's a different story. But I cringe when I hear the liberal media "out" some gun owner because they are "legally blind."
I appreciate your understanding about folks who have low vision; we've had to explain the concept of "legally blind" many times. In my wife's case, her vision has deteriorated pretty far: she can't make out even gross detail much farther than arms reach, even less is bright daylight. I always announce myself whenever I come home so that she has no doubt that its me. Our friends also all know to identify themselves if they come to our door in case I'm not home - our front door camera has an intercom si she can talk to whoever us there without actually going to the door.

She was born with her condition and it's gotten steadily worse throughout her life. It's macular degeneration (dry), cone dystrophy and astigmatism (though the last has been corrected through cataract surgery).

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I am sincerely hoping to hear from some of the women on here.
 

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My wife only carries a gun when she goes out of town without me. In town she carries mace. She works at home and always has her gun at the ready.
 
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Mrs Thin does have her CCDW permit, but carries rarely. One issue is she works at a prison, and can't even lock up a gun in her car. Occasionally she will carry on weekends if we're going to be out and about, but not often.
 
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No, and may never. She has passed the class, now I have to push her to apply. I doubt she will ever be the type to carry full time. Not unless she gets a good scare, though I hope not.

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I agree. My wife spent a long career in high-fashion retailing and for a lot of women, even ones where it doesn't make that much difference, changing the slightest thing about clothing profiles and/or accessories is a big deal. That makes no sense to guys and a lot of enlightened women have gotten over it, but the effect is not to be underestimated.

Also, while I think safe off-body carry is theoretically possible, anything my wife puts into her purse goes into "a great abyss." She can't find her keys or her phone in her purse half the time. Finding a gun when she needed it would be problematic. The purse would make a devastating impact weapon, though!

Add to that what I call the "perceived klutz factor." A lot of women have been brought up to think that they can't handle tools, especially guns, and apparently, tire pressure gauges. It's not true! My wife can be incredibly precise with kitchen tools, including her knives, which I keep very sharp. But my wife assumes that if there are bullets in a gun, it can go off by itself.

I have a DAO gun I sometimes carry with 9# trigger She has fired it on the range and she can barely manage the trigger. One day she asked, "Could that thing just go off by itself?" I was thinking, "What? You could hardly get it to go off when you were trying to get it to go off!" But I just said "No, it's very safe." Discretion is the better part of valor. Happy wife, happy life!
I think you have just described my wife's aversion to change! And I know we had the same conversation about "Won't that gun just go off?" Only I laughed and said "Only you could ask that after using two fingers to try and make it go off when you wanted it too!" My first wife carried in her purse. I would make her cardboard dividers that would hold her gun and holster upright, and would keep anything else away from her gun. In those days I had never seen a concealed carry purse. DR
 

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My wife never, it has taken me 23 years just to get her to go to the range and she still doesn't fill comfortable. Funny thing is if we get to a place with questionable looking characters she'll ask you r carrying right!
 

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Married a Marine she can well prepared.
 
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