It is not usually a good idea at all to lubricate any magazine. I would sooner recommend a third party magazine. Using a magazine reloader is an okay idea if you don't have thick skin on your thumb yet but.....Load it to full capacity using the provided loading tool. It's going to be rough, but it can be done. Once it's done, it gets easier. As far as not dropping the magazine readily, try some Armor-All on the magazine or something similar.
+1 Best loader out there and on sale at.Get an Uplula loader. Load and unload the mags a few times.