Please have her try the SIG P238. I know you/she are set on 9mm - BUT my personal feeling is that good .380 ammo is going to do a fine job for me in any SD situation I wind up in (hopefully none) and the P238 is a total joy: Racks easily, very mild recoil, totally accurate, etc. The only drawback is that it is SMALL and a bit of a challenge to clean if you have large hands. I don't, so it's not a problem, but there are a LOT of teeny little places - same places as on other guns, just a lot smaller. AND although it is not a real 1911, it has the grip angle and the feel of one - baby size.I did like the 938. It was a little tack driver, but it was definitely not a cupcake. While I am not recoil sensitive, this is not a gun I would enjoy shooting for fun, although I shot it extreme well. And despite being totally caked with carbon buildup, it was flawless.
In fact, I put around 50 rounds through one of mine this afternoon, and it is just plain FUN to shoot. I actually have 2 of them, in different models. The only problem with .380 ammo is the price if you are going to shoot a few hundred rounds every week. And THAT is why I also take a .22 when I go to the range. I can shoot 50 or 60 rounds of .380 through one or two guns and then blast away with my S&W .22 compact "and a good time is had by all!!!!"
And there was a guy shooting a cute little .22 rifle when my friend and I got there. He was about finished but there is plenty of room on that all steel range for several people to shoot at once. Anyway we talked a couple minutes and he said he has a .380 but the recoil is horrendous. I asked him what brand. His reply: A S&W Bodyguard. WELL, duh.......those are nasty little beasts. So I let him shoot my P238 and boy was he impressed.
Back to - it will be her choice, but I would be pleased if she tries a P238 in the mix of other guns she will be trying.