I vote for the Kahr PM9. mine has been accurate and reliable without any issues even during the reccommended break in period. I got rid of my j frame since it was not comfortable to carry, plus I sucked shooting it. I have a H&K P2000sk which I love that is the same size a a Glock 26 but IMO too big and heavy for a pocket gun.
I can carry it in a Desantis Superfly in a front or rear pocket and forget about it. It will also disappear with and OWB or IWB much better than a j frame. It is 14oz which is heavier than a kel tec or lcp but the same as Sig, Magnum Research, Walther and even Kahr's .380s while shooting a better, with more SD choices 9mm.