I wasn’t sure where to post this; it’s not really a defensive situation but more dealing with SA. In the past my wife has had a bad habit of opening the door to complete strangers. Twice she opened the door to a woman who was either mentally unstable or on drugs. We have talked about it and she has agreed to not open the door to anyone she either does not know or is not expecting like the bug man. And then yesterday, I was working in the backyard and came around the side of the house and a guy was standing at the front door and my wife was talking to him. She said, “There’s my husband you can talk to him.” Needless to say I was pretty rude to the guy (he was selling cleaning supplies) because I was a little frustrated at my wife. She said, “I heard the doorbell rang and thought it was you so I opened the door without looking.” She said her first thought when she saw the guy standing there was that I was going to be pissed and she was right. So NEW RULE. If I am outside working in the yard and need something I will NOT ring the doorbell. She also is against any type of pepper spray, hates my pistol, etc. She is pretty much a sheep but we are working on it. She has agreed to take a CWP class and go shooting so hopefully when we get past the general fear of guns she may get a little more comfortable. She has agreed to put some wasp spray by the front door so at least that’s a step in the right direction.