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Hey there. Just got my cwp in sc about a week ago. I carry a glock 30sf in a n82 original iwb holster @ 3:00. On with the story (nothing crazy, just thought i would share).

So i was going to pick up my 3 yr old at her nanny/babysitters house. She is about 60? Maybe. Her husband is a vietnam vet, pretty wore out guy but nice. Very nice people. I go to the door and she and my daughter come out. We get to talking and she accidently bumped into my hip. I know she felt that brick on my side haha. Up to that point she was, like always, very outgoing and friendly (shes a small talk chatterbox btw). After she bumped it she didnt make eye contact but i could just tell she knew something was there. From then on she was very short with her talking and seemed rattled. I kinda just ended the confrontation and went on home. She hasnt acted like this anymore, but i just thought it was interesting. Made me wonder if she thought i carried a gun illegally, was some thug, etc. Just crazy to think how peoples dimeanor changes when a gun is around. Thanks for reading and sorry if i wasted your time!
 

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Not a waste of time at all. She was probably just caught off guard and didn't know what to say. If she doesn't bring it up at another time, just let it ride. If she does, just politely explain that you carry for your and your daughters protection. If her husband is a vet he will understand.
 

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I wouldn't change a thing from your normal routine or attitude. I'm sure if she was thrown back a bit that will subside after some time. I wouldn't bring it up unless she does again later but then what else is there to do really except to kindly explain that you don't normally like people to know, but you have a license to carry and you're one of the good folk.
 
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Not a waste of time at all. She was probably just caught off guard and didn't know what to say. If she doesn't bring it up at another time, just let it ride. If she does, just politely explain that you carry for your and your daughters protection. If her husband is a vet he will understand.
The last part isn't necessarily true. I've met many Vietnam vets that are vehemently anti 2nd ammendment...
 

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Live and learn!
 

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May be she thought it was a medical device and was embarrassed. I would just act natural and let it blow over. Also some people are embarrassed if the accidently touch you.
 

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Like my ol' pappy used to say, "Son, nanny bumping is always a bad idea...in soooo many ways". :biggrin2:
 

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I also know many Viet Nam vets that are 100% anti gun. A large amount of the current vets are anti gun once they get discharged.

Now for the situation at hand.

Why not get into a discussion with she and her husband about if they have gotten their concealed permits as yet? Explain that streets are getting rougher and the criminals often pick out the older persons as their victims. Tell them that you would be happy to help them with their permits if they would like. You might even want to talk with her husband about the guns he shot in the military and if he is an active shooter today.

Her reaction may have been less than you think and only a perceived reaction on the part of a new carrier. I have carried for about 40 yrs now both on duty and off. Many women have hugged me and felt my gun. Some have asked to see it. Some questioned why I carry a gun and some ended up getting their permit. Not one person in all those years have taken offense to my carrying.

A new carrier, not just you, is more cautious during their early stages of carry. When they walk into Walmart, they feel everyone in there sees theri gun. Some open carriers worry about people seeing their gun when they carry the first few weeks.
 

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I also know many Viet Nam vets that are 100% anti gun. A large amount of the current vets are anti gun once they get discharged.

Now for the situation at hand.

Why not get into a discussion with she and her husband about if they have gotten their concealed permits as yet? Explain that streets are getting rougher and the criminals often pick out the older persons as their victims. Tell them that you would be happy to help them with their permits if they would like. You might even want to talk with her husband about the guns he shot in the military and if he is an active shooter today.

Her reaction may have been less than you think and only a perceived reaction on the part of a new carrier. I have carried for about 40 yrs now both on duty and off. Many women have hugged me and felt my gun. Some have asked to see it. Some questioned why I carry a gun and some ended up getting their permit. Not one person in all those years have taken offense to my carrying.

A new carrier, not just you, is more cautious during their early stages of carry. When they walk into Walmart, they feel everyone in there sees theri gun. Some open carriers worry about people seeing their gun when they carry the first few weeks.
Sadly, I know one active, presently deployed overseas, service person that is an avowed socialist and rabidly anti 2a.

People come in all shapes and suffer all manner of delusion.
 

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Personally, I would NOT bring up the subject of firearms to this woman again. Let her ask if she has concerns.
Even though I spent 34 years as a LEO, I have learned that, many people are irrationally phobic about firearms, I have never understood it.

Oddly, when in uniform or if people know I am LE or retired LE, my sidearm is 'magically' a non-issue. Oddly, my wife's parents are the only people I know who are still 'uncomfortable' around my sidearm. FIL is WWII Army vet, raised on a farm in Iowa + shoots squirrels with a BB gun. MIL is a mystery on that subject, so I just keep my sidearm "Very" concealed and we all get along just fine.

A lot of this is dependent on your Geo-Political location in the U.S.
People in the New England States have a near universal fear of firearms, but its almost non-existent in the Heartland. With countless exceptions, of course.

As far as 'Nam vets, I know many who have developed a strong dislike for firearms, but that was a particularly Gory and overly-violent war. I am a wounded combat vet from that hell-hole, myself and saw enough to understand their feelings. Many who were there, haven't been sober much since they returned... even those who returned with all their parts intact and functional. 'Nam was a low-tech, barbaric nightmare.
A Large majority are Pro-2nd Amend, whether they wish to own firearms or not, of course.
They gave up so much to uphold our U.S. Constitution.
 

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Also some people are embarrassed if the accidently touch you.
This is most probably most likely explanation for her demeanor. Perhaps you are still self-conscious about carrying a weapon so you assume people's behavior must have something to do with that. In all likelihood she has no idea you are carrying. And it was simply an awkward social pas de deux.
 

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Something similar happened to me once. I was at a Panera waiting in a line of about 10 people, when someone in front of me suddenly moved back. I had to step back quickly, so the guy behind me put his hand on my waist right where my Glock 26 was. I looked at him, and he just smiled. He might have been probably carrying too, who knows.
 

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I wear a Ruger SR40C in a 3 Speed Holster. Though it's made for deep conceal, I wear mine just above the beltline. When wearing shorts and tee. It might print a little. While walking the Dog, i stopped to talk to a neighbor. It seems his eyes went to the area that my gun was (When men start staring at other men's crotches , you notice). I don't know If i was "MADE' but the neighbor is a POSTAL WORKER... So i guess he has a lot of experience with "GUNS AND AMMO"
 

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You don't tell her you're carrying unless there's no other option. Let her imagination run wild if it has to, it could have been a cell phone, a pager, a diabetes pump, a Leatherman, etc. It's none of her business if you're carrying concealed. That's the whole point of carrying concealed.
 
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