My wife has been uncomfortable several times returning to our complex alone. One guy in particular spends a significant amount of time loitering in the parking lot, walking from end to end on the phone. His perogative, but odd. He also adapts the appearance of a thug, pretty much every time I see him. Several times when my wife has come home this guy, and in one case his friends, has watched her all the way from her vehicle to the front door of our apt.
Last night I got home and locked my car but didn't check it as thoroughly as normal (which is admittedly pretty thoroughly normally) because there was someone walking by with dogs and my wife started calling me (I was a little late). After I took my stuff in I knew she wanted me to get some stuff from her vehicle.
So... I'm leaning in the back door picking her stuff up and I hear a van coming down the drive with music playing loudly and the van stopped right behind our truck. I turned toward it pretty quickly at that point.. (I had been aware of the van at the end of the parking lot as I was going toward our truck.) Turns out the driver, the guy that has caused her the most worry, is rather awkwardly, perhaps drunkenly, trying to back into a space with his door hanging open while bellowing out the window to the music on the radio. So I got my stuff, locked the truck, went to the door where my wife was waiting and told her to lock the door while I went and doublechecked my car. On the way back I see the guy is still bellowing out the window and not getting out of his vehicle, as I got to the door, he was getting out and I was watching from the shadow of the entrance to my apartment and the next. He sees me watching and says "what are you looking at."
"Just seeing what's going on."
"Are you looking at me?"
"Just seeing what's going on. You having a good night?"
So he made a "come on" with his hands and stares back at me while he walks on a diagonal toward his building, away from me, and puts his hand on his waist. I've seen him walking like that frequently, so I'm pretty sure he was just trying to keep his pants up. But at that point I was very nervous.
He got far enough away that I turned and went into the apartment locked the door, triple checked it, and spent 30 minutes getting back to my normal post work state of grouchiness.
I ran into the guy in the parking lot this afternoon at the dumpster. I'm not sure he knew it was me, but he wasn't confrontational. I said "Afternoon" and he said "sup" and we went on our way.
I am thinking he was probably as nervous as I was and was trying to bluff last night. But I'm not wanting to gamble on that.
We have a weapon but it stays at home in case my wife needs it at home.
As I have posted I just this weekend put a Glock on layaway, but still have 80% left to pay off.
So we went to walmart today and got a bat to go in the front doorway and I was looking for something to carry in my bag for the parking lot. I was thinking something like a hammer handle, when my wife saw the MAG lights on the next aisle. I now have a full sized alluminum flashlight that will be in my hand in the lot at night, and also at work because it has bothered me not having anything with me while doing security rounds at night.
Did I handle this correctly? What should I have done different? I don't think I had any SA issues because I was aware of everything around me the whole time. I knew the van was behind me as I was getting stuff from the truck and went to full alert when it stopped right by me.