I know we've said it before but a recent argument just drove it back to the front of my mind again.
It's easy to get caught up in this gun is better than that gun and this caliber is better than that caliber when the reality is that the gun is maybe, and I say maybe, 5% of the solution when it comes to actual self protection.
It's true you can't avoid everything, but your awareness and mindset alone count for an awful lot. Knowing how to shoot as opposed to what you should be shooting according to some gun rag is probably the rest of it.
It's true that what I call "human" factors work into the situation. Seemingly arbitrary differences often dictate what is a suitable carry gun and what is not. Your experiences, life style, physical condition, and perceptions color it too.
I've spent an embarassing amount on holsters ever since finding this forum, and you know what, the good ones make all the difference. You'd be surprised what you can carry with a decent holster. Or actually you might not be if you knew that already.
Anything you pick for a carry gun is going to suck. That's my outlook on it. The reason I say that is that everything is a compromise. If one handgun really did do everything that's all they'd make.
There are guns I own that I otherwise wouldn't because they meet my carry needs. There are guns I own that I love dearly that I never carry. Any gun that exists, you are going to have an opinion on. And for you personally, you're probably right.
Carry gun choices are very personal so it's only natural that people boast about them and defend them when they're attacked. Silly as it sounds, even your most loathed gun is a little piece of your personality. There's a whole world of guns out there and you picked that one. It says something about you, so hearing it criticized will illicit a knee jerk reaction and hearing it praised will bring more gloating.
But to like anything, that means you dislike something else to some degree, or at least you don't like it enough to carry it and you probably have a good reason. Not necessarily a logical reason or an objective one, but one that is important to you. Therefore you will hear both praise and scorn for everything in existence at different times.
It's like anything else in life. You've got to make your own decisions and sometimes learn to live with your own prejudices. Whether or not such and such is a viable carry gun is subjective from person to person in the end.
And why shouldn't it be? After all the gun itself is a very small part of your self protection scheme.