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Were your parents pleased with your chosen profession?

  • Yes, my parents were pleased with my profession.

    Votes: 40 66.7%
  • My parents were neutral about my profession. Neither pleased nor displeased.

    Votes: 7 11.7%
  • No, my parents were not pleased with my profession.

    Votes: 5 8.3%
  • I don't know whether my parents were pleased with my profession.

    Votes: 3 5.0%
  • Other?

    Votes: 5 8.3%

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My parents could never understand why I obtained a master's degree and went off to be an oilfield diver (it's a long complicated story). Whenever I came home when I was diving in the oil patch, my friend's parents would ask me, "When are you going to get a real job and quit this diving?" I know my parents thought I should have been a doctor or a lawyer.

The meme below has floated around the diving industry for years, initially on T shirts that I remember seeing more than 30 years ago. Perhaps similar designs have floated around other professions, too?

At any rate, I'm curious as to how many of our members here had parents who were pleased with what they chose to do to make a living?

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No, I was raised to be a fundamentalist protestant minister. To quote my mother, "He joined the Navy and went to hell."
Thanks! At least I am not alone...
 

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Voted for yes, but it has little to do with the profession, but the job performance. They never cared what field we all wandered off to, but they expected us to rise to the top and be leaders in whatever we did.
 

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I work in our family business so I hope so lol. Cool profession you're in. I have a good friend who started doing commercial diving, eventually bought out his boss and has done EXTREMELY well for himself. Gotta make hay where you find it.
 

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I ran my own business for 26 years (a motorcycle shop) and just went into semi retirement last year. I still work on bikes for friends at home. My parents were proud that I was a business owner. That being said...if I had it to do all over again. I would have worked for the federal government and been staring at a fat pension by now.
 

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I work in our family business so I hope so lol. Cool profession you're in. I have a good friend who started doing commercial diving, eventually bought out his boss and has done EXTREMELY well for himself. Gotta make hay where you find it.
I left the oil patch in 1983 after 7 years and worked for a couple of diving equipment manufacturers before starting a consulting business that served both the sport and commercial diving industries. I did diving accident investigation, expert witness work in diving accident litigation, wrote textbooks for both sport and commercial diving, did topside and underwater photography and video. I have been retired since 2014.
 

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I don’t think my parents think less of me because of my chosen career path. Whether or not they are proud, I don’t really know. It’s not something I really considered.
 
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Mom and Dad were both pleased that I joined the Navy. Dad was happy for me, despite dropping out of college to join, since he was on a carrier in WWII. Mom, however, wasn't too keen on me volunteering for Submarines, especially on the heels of my brother volunteering to fly helicopters in Viet Nam, and my brother-in-law being killed over there. She once commented, "Why can't I have two normal sons?" I think that was about the time that Desert Storm broke out, and since I was at sea, she was worried that we would be in the fray. When I got back from deployment, I explained to her that our boat was a Ballistic Missile Sub, and if we were over there, we were too close.
 

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My mom passed when I was only 13 but my dad was quite pleased to drive me to the USAF recruiter’s office but he did inform me that if I joined the Army instead he would put his foot where the sun doesn’t shine. He was an Army WWII vet but I had an uncle in the AAF and he said my uncle far better than he did. The best decision I ever made was staying until I had enough years to retire.
 

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you make my open water cert look like a big wheel lol!!! I've blown a ton of bubbles but all rec diving, I have a ton of respect for the commercial guys, margins of error are razor thin and the price of failure is extremely high. I'm a sissy.... I won't get in water that is less than 70 degrees or less than 50' viz... you commercial guys dive in stuff I wouldn't throw my worst enemy into. I can understand why someone who had no idea what all is involved wouldn't understand your chosen profession but from someone who does I think it's both very cool and impressive... it's not an easy way to make a living.
 

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I voted "other" as my Mom wanted me to be in a more high brow profession she could brag about to others, she was a materialistic person. My Dad on the other hand envied me doing something I really enjoyed as he was never able to do that because, well, see above.
 

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you make my open water cert look like a big wheel lol!!! I've blown a ton of bubbles but all rec diving, I have a ton of respect for the commercial guys, margins of error are razor thin and the price of failure is extremely high. I'm a sissy.... I won't get in water that is less than 70 degrees or less than 50' viz... you commercial guys dive in stuff I wouldn't throw my worst enemy into. I can understand why someone who had no idea what all is involved wouldn't understand your chosen profession but from someone who does I think it's both very cool and impressive... it's not an easy way to make a living.
Danger is no stranger, we dive at 5....Actually, I know more guys who were killed in automobile accidents than in diving accidents. I had my share of close calls, but fortunately I was never injured. Knowing when to say, "No, I am not going to make this dive." saved my butt more than anything else.
 

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My mother wanted me to be a college professor. My father wanted me to be a success in business. I ended up as a little of both.
And, yes, they both did finally express pride in my accomplishments.

I hold a metaphorical Black Belt in English grammar and a Green Belt in military history, but no college degree in anything.
I have a background in art and design, and I taught art (techniques and tools) to our island's grade-school kids.
I ran my own very successful leather shop for about 25 years.

Then I was "the other partner" in an electronic-chassis manufacturing business for 20 years: He was the President and Janitor, and I was everything else in-between.
For a customer, I designed, and we built, the first portable computer using Apple internals, long before Apple ever thought of it. It was not a commercial success, but it certainly was fun to have done it.
 

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My mother was proud of me, unfortunately my Dad was killed before I became a cop. I would like to think that he would have been proud of me.
 

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Depends on which career. Dad never held me back from doing what I wanted. Mom has had trouble with some of my career choices.
Farming, mechanic, driver (bus, truck, delivery, cab, specialty cargo), private security, alcohol/drug counseling, construction, that pretty much covers it. Most of them have been second to farming.
 

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My Dad wanted me to be a lawyer, and in hindsight he was probably right about that, but I didn't go that way. He was super-proud when I joined the Navy and became and officer and aviator. Then he was disappointed that I left the Navy. I spent most of my career in management consulting. He only had a high school education and was a successful entrepreneur, but I don't think he ever really understood what I did and didn't really try to. My Mom was always supportive, but she was one of those moms who spent all her time worrying about and helping my sister and younger brothers, who were busy screwing up their lives in one way or another. It was like if you had your stuff together and didn't need her doting help, you were off her radar. Don't read any resentment into any of that. I loved them both, but that was the way it was.
 

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My parents were very upset about my choice. I graduated HS in June 1959 at age 17 years & 4 mos. They wanted me to go to college. I wanted to join the Marines. They would not sign for me. I told them that as soon as I turned 18 I would not need their signatures, and I would join. So I was not going to college and I was gong to join the Marines. They gave in in July and in September I was in Parris Island for recruit training. They never liked me being in the Corps because they did not want to see me get hurt. My dad died while is was in Nam. He had accepted that I was doing what I wanted to do by then. My mom had accepted it after I graduated boot camp. But I do not think either of them ever expressed pride to others about my choice. I know that when I was coming home wounded in 1968 my mom did tell family and friends that I had been wounded fighting for the country. Buy by them about 40% of Americans considered me as part the baby killer military. At the end of it all I was proud of myself, and that was really all that mattered. Semper Fi.
 

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Hmmmmmmm you know I never thought about it. My parents have elementary school educations from Mexico so to them getting an education was top priority and never brought up career fields. I have two sisters and all three of us have multiple degrees from the local university all earned on farm laborers wages so my mother is very proud of that. My older sister has had two professional jobs IRS revenue officer then switched to teaching when her kids got a bit older. My younger sister has been a hs teacher her entire professional life. I have had multiple jobs never a "career" presently I work as a "milkman" and have for the past 13 years. Education was the priority in my family and as long as we aren't criminals my parents are ok with how we pay the bills.
 
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